Having a boyfriend does not make you better than everyone. Having a boyfriend will not validate your looks. Girls are constantly given the message that they are not complete without a boyfriend. There is nothing wrong being a teenager and not having one. Don't feel pressured just because all your friends have boyfriends that you need to get one. Having a boyfriend at a young age can lead to bad choices when you get older. Stay primarily concerned with your own life and making yourself happy first. You rather be the independent girl who puts more emphasis on who you are and who you want to be when you grow up than hunting for boys. I believe that you do need your priorities in line before you have a boyfriend. You have to know boys respect girls with confidence and goals better than the other.
If you get a boyfriend JUST to fit in, it is unlikely that the relationship will last. Everyone develops at her own pace and there is nothing wrong with wanting love. That is normal and healthy but you need to have a boyfriend when you are emotionally ready to deal with the jealousy, heartbreak and all that craziness that comes with it.
If you have to try so hard and give up other things that REALLY matter, it's not worth it. Boys aren't worth your time when you are busy studying or playing sports. If you want a boyfriend so bad you will start to worry about that and not concentrate on school work that will definitely lead you to fail and another secret of boys is that they don't like girls who are not smart though they hardly admit it when they are young.
Also at this age you need to live your life as independent person because having a boyfriend at such a tender age can lead to a very dependent lifestyle of a need to feel “loved” all the times. Later in life if at a certain time you happen not to have a boyfriend you’ll start to get depress, feel that you are not pretty enough, or have the need to please anyone and do as he wants just to keep him around.
Middle/high school relationships are not even that cool, where do you think they are going to end up? Boys aren’t so cool as teenagers. They are pretty lame and most of them are a bit too immature to handle a relationship. If your friends think you are a loser just because you don’t have a boyfriend, you need to get better friends!
Sometimes being single is easier too because you don't have to deal with keeping that other person happy. Spending time with someone of the opposite sex can actually be very fulfilling even at a young age but keep males at only a friendship level. Also by having just male friends you will learn a lot more that just a boyfriend because as just friends they will tell you so many things that they wouldn’t tell you if you were dating. At least when you are in middle/high school you should be focusing more on your friends/friendship. Look for friends not boyfriends.
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